Saturday, May 14, 2016

Love and Trauma


I may be walking around the house saying, "Lemonada" (from Courageous...BEST.SCENE.EVER). I don't know why, but it has me giggling today.  Our kids know I'm silly.  We kinda laugh a lot around here.

              The Artist                                   The Engineer     Little Mama and Benjamin

We are having a fairly casual Saturday.

We are seeing some of the signs of trauma and mourning in Timothy today.  There have been glimpses of sadness today.  He's rocked himself, self soothed, when not in Thomas or I's arms. I have to wonder if he's missing his best friend in the orphanage, the smells, the language....the familiar.

He's mourning.  It's a part of healing.  He's lost so much. He's lost everything he knows, good or bad.   He's lost what's familiar.

I think it'd be easy to go into adoption thinking love solves everything.

I have to tell you... it does.

It doesn't change trauma or pain, but because of love we can valiantly stand...seeking help and battling for our children.

I think of one friend right now, a warrior mom named Jodi.  In love she's been in battle for her son who has suffered such trauma in his young life.

I think of my friend Renae, who is in the beginning stages of bringing her very tiny and frail son home who will fight for him, not knowing the outcome.

There are so many men and women silently struggling with scuffed armor for their children, their families.

That's love...love doesn't guarantee a win....only God can do that that.  Love is what keeps us going in the battle.

This little guy, four in just a few days...in 18 months clothing...a big medical journey ahead of him...is sad.  He's seeking and cuddling with Thomas and I.  We have social workers and translators that are "on call" as needed in this process (reading this right now)...but right now we hurt with him...we love with him.  He is our son.

Again I am reminded how blessed we are.  How could I not remember when I get to look at this?



Come, let us sing for joy to the Lord;
    let us shout aloud to the Rock of our salvation.

Let us come before him with thanksgiving
    and extol him with music and song
Psalm 95:1-2

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Prayer Requests

1.    Continued prayers for Tom and Elizabeth (blessing and protection).

2.  Prayers for our grandchild (in utero) and mommy as the pregnancy progresses.  Sarah has to be so careful with the severity of her allergy to wheat (seizures) and she also has to gain a lot of weight (she lost and couldn't gain before her Celiac diagnoses and was only beginning to gain before her pregnancy).  She's doing great, but could use the prayers.
3. For our little man as he transitions.  Specifically that he sees us as different (attachment) and has some stranger fear (showing he sees us as his security) and his sleep. It's easy to look at little ones newly coming home as "friendly".  That may be a bit of it, but often they have no concept of family and view everyone as caregivers initially.
4. For direction as we move forward with so many changes and future changes.
5.  That we can get into a good co-op with home school (in the works) for next year..

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