Monday, November 2, 2015

Should Everyone Adopt? The Answer May Surprise You~National Adoption Month

This is National Adoption Month.  I know, it's always National (fill in the blank) Month  Actually, on my Facebook feed I always see several different categories each month.

You understand why this one is near and dear to our hearts?  Right?

I always struggle with how I should start the month.  I usually start the same way.  With sharing one specific blog post from the past.

When I thought about it this year, I wondered if I should contemplate starting this month a different way.

Then I read the post.  I really don't know of another way to start off this month.  If you've read it, I apologize.  If you haven't, you may be surprised at my answer.  I don't say that everyone should adopt.  (Now pick your jaw off the floor)

My feelings haven't changed.  I'm not a great leader.  I occasionally wonder if I should put these things out there, if it's making a difference.  Then I remind myself that could be applied to everything we do.  We don't speak God's truth because we are guaranteed someone will listen.  We do it because it's the right thing to do.

So here I go....

Should Everyone Adopt? With a Tsp. More Wisdom and A Cup More Thought 

Picture this...

Your car is broke.

You take it in and they have several specialists at your service.

There's the transmission specialist which, unfortunately, we've seen too often. There's a brake specialist (our recent downfall). There may be a general mechanic and one that specializes in body work or interiors. There's a million different "specialties" that each have a different skill set.

If I had to choose one of these to do without, I would probably pick those that specialize in body work or interiors. I wouldn't want to. I have enough issues with my house clutter and having people come over, that I'm not sure I want to start dreading someone seeing my car.

Each of these jobs are important. I really don't want the brake specialist working on my transmission either. Yikes!

They each have their much needed specialties and they aren't interchangeable (I Corinthians 12:15-20). Yet, I don't feel adoption, in itself, is a ministry. Adoption support is, but not adoption itself. I believe GOD leads us to our children and creates families. This thought itself raises more questions in my mind.

Maybe we should be asking different questions.
*Does God lead everyone to their child next door or across the world?
*Should we be open to God's leading, actively seeking Him, not just in the adoption arena, but in every aspect of our lives?
*Can you ignore God's call or put a "cap" on the number of children you have (without asking God His will)?
*What does God expect us to do when he states hard truth as in James 1:27?

I think that maybe these questions are more along the lines of what we need to be answering.


The first verse that comes to mind when I ask myself this question is this one....

"For who knows a person’s thoughts except their own spirit within them? In the same way no one knows the thoughts of God except the Spirit of God" 1 Corinthians 2:11

We can seek the Bible. We can know God's commands to "take care of the orphans and widows in their distress.." (James 1:27).

Unfortunately, we are also very capable of saying that we MUST know God's will for someone else's life because of our own personal call.

We don't always know how each person is enacting the command in James 1:27, because of the following verse.

"But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you." Matthew 6:3-4

Someone may be following God's command and leading in their life in an amazing way.

Another question naturally flows from that one...


Though the answer may seem obvious, I seem to hear God asking me, "Have you given that to me? Really?" often enough to fear that the answer is not as straight forward as that.

We need to be actively seeking God's will, not assuming we know it. There are MANY wonderful things we can choose to do with our lives and with our actions. There are many paths of service and many ministries that are firmly based in the Bible.

Does that mean we are all gifted to perform each one or to walk each path? Even in service, God has a path that is best. If we choose to take a road that is good, but is OUR choice instead of God' is not the right road to take.

It is so easy to say, "God has not led me", when we were not open to His leading in the first place. Whether it's concerning a mission field, adoption, or other huge decisions, we need to be asking HIM.

If we are not asking (but assuming), why aren't we asking our Heavenly Father?

What does it hurt to ask God, seek Him, unless we are scared to get an answer we don't want to hear?


Overseas Lord? Well, give me about six years to get my debt paid off and I'm there!

Leading me out of this specific Church? This is my family Lord, I'm comfortable here. Let me wait until the kids are older and then, God, I'm there!

Change jobs? In this economy? Let's give it a couple of years and let the economy come back and I'm there Lord!

I think most of us have been asked (at some point), "How many children do you want?" We have had that conversation in our marriage.

The numbers we state may have been given by God, but are you sure? Have you asked Him?

I ask this from personal experience.
When Thomas and I were dating, I told him that I wanted four children. He wanted six. I actually said, "Who's gonna be having them honey? I'm not!" All this was said with a chuckle.

There are just some things we blindly accept as "rights" as humans.

We have the right to many things, but these "rights" are not always "right". God may have led you to two children, five, or seven....but if you have not asked HIM if the number is from do you really know?

Think of the crazy MAXIMUM number of children you would parent. The absolute MAX that you would be okay with it. Got it?! Now seriously think about what would happen if God asked you to parent even one more than that.

Have you put a "cap" on a decision that needs to be given to God? I know we had.

Many never consider adoption because of a "cap" they have in their minds (often based on what is considered very logical...finances, space...temporary things).


"Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world." James 1:27

He expects us to act. It's that simple. He expects us to see the orphans and widows as His individual children. He expects us to help orphans and widows. Whether through adoption, aiding in an adoption, sponsorship, finding a widow you can mow a lawn for, visiting a nursing home and adopting someone that the world has matter what the service...God expects us to act`.

He also expects us to seek our place in His kingdom, HIS service, HIS will.


FOUR questions to answer ONE? Really?!

Seems a complicated answer, doesn't it? Yet, it's surprisingly simple.

*Follow God's Word.
*Seek Him.
*Don't assume
*Be Open to things that might not always make us comfortable.
*Act on James a way that God wants.


Note from Kat, human and fallible Kat:

We have never kept it a secret, our passion for adoption. You've probably heard us state our wish before. Take a month, truly choose to open up to possibilities, and ask God, "What would you have me do?". It doesn't this up to God. Okay, so maybe giving our will up for His hurts a a good way

Before you (may) make the decision NOT to pray...think about your earliest memory, your earliest fear, and picture waking up and knowing no one will be there when you are crying or shaking. This is the life of many orphans. How can we help? This IS our responsibility straight from the scriptures.

This is me, this is Kat, a human that has MANY flaws. My words are not perfect or eloquent, not gospel, but from my heart.

I hope for you to find that can make a difference in the life of a orphan or widow. I wish for you the joy of giving it ALL to God and letting Him decide. I wish for you the blessings of walking a path while holding Christ's hand as He leads you.


Prayer Requests:
*Please pray we stand, reflect, and glorify God through our lives and this adoption process (first and foremost).
*Please pray for protection for our family and future children...that the master of lies may be bound and anything coming against us may be turned away.
*Please pray the adoption is fully funded.
*Please pray that we find our new normal (usually an after adoption  We need to figure out what direction to go in several ways.  We need God's direction and discernment.
*Please pray for Sarah and Ivan as they begin their lives together.  That they learn to grow together toward God and ALWAYS love God more than each other.
*Please pray my mom gains strength and finds a new normal as well.  Also, please pray her kidney levels do go where they need to.

Many people are going through hard times right now.  Please email me if I can pray for you. everlasting_momentum (at)

*Please pray for a friend of mine's daughter who has cancer.  She's going through treatment and it's really rough.  Her name is Alyssa.
*Please pray for the Marshall and Shrader families.  My high school friend Marc passed away only weeks ago from brain cancer (he was my age and left behind a beautiful wife and three young sons).  His older sister's husband was killed in an accident last weekend.  I can't fathom what this family is going through.  He leaves his amazing wife Chrisie and two daughters.

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1 comment:

  1. Love this. We started praying and asking questions thinking nothing could happen and God just started opening every door we knocked on. Yikes! God is the one building our family and I now refuse to answer the "how many kids do you want" question ;-)


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