Tuesday, July 24, 2012

The TALK...The Surgery Talk

You would never guess that this little girl had just been crying. 

Though we have been preparing Jael for her upcoming surgery, today I pulled out pictures.  The doctors had recommended them to truly prepare our four year old. 

The pictures are happy, but they show what life looks like directly after the surgery (happy kids in the hospital with clean bandages around their legs).  They showed children, men, and women putting on their prosthesis and running, walking. 

Though Jael had been sharing with others, "I get new legs!", the pictures brought home a new reality for our precious little one. 

The tears started streaming down her face.

"Me no want it!" she cried.  "I scared!"

She buried her head in my side, soaking my shirt.

We talked about how the little girl at the hospital looked happy.  She probably didn't feel very good RIGHT after surgery, but the doctors helped her feel better.  We talked of the little boy running,  how I bet he could run faster than even his daddy!  We talked (and showed her pictures) of a lovely family that personally showed us what we could expect.  We talked about how happy her son was!

More tears and "Me no want." This time it was said at a whisper.

My mommy heart was shattered.

Then the light bulb moment came.

"Honey, did you know right before we go to the hospital to get new legs that we will go shopping for a bunch of new toys for you to play with while you're there?"

Eyes peaked out...

"What do you think we should buy to play with while we are there? A Polly Pocket maybe?  A Barbie? A new coloring book?"


"Yes, Jael get a bunch of toys! I no have to share?"

"You do not have to share your hospital toys, honey." I smiled.

Everything became sunshine and light at that point (see picture above).

Friday we meet the doctors, another family that are experienced with prosthesis, children with prosthesis, and set the date. 
Mommy is now taking a deep breath.

"And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose." Romans 8:28


  1. Like the beauty of the sun after the fresh fallen rain, there will be dark days ahead but seeing Jael learning to walk will be your beauty!! Praying God will give you strength, and keep Jael's pain at a minimum!! You and Tom are amazing and Jael is so fortunate to have you as her parents!

  2. I am so excited for Jael! A whole new world will unfold for her!!!

  3. Praying for your angel as she experiences her hospital stay and getting new legs too!! And of course for mommy's heart and your family while you are separated.

  4. We have not yet had a child, like Jael, who could understand that they were having surgery!
    All of our kids who needed big surgeries are developmentally disabled.
    Wow! This is something I had never considered. Explaining to a child who knows what is going to happen. You did amazing Kat! We are praying for you all and for wisdom for you as you help Jael face her surgeries. (((HUGS)))

  5. Wow! Thanks for sharing that heart-rending experience. I hadn't even thought of what that would be like. Praying for you all!!

  6. Oh, my heart ached for you and Jael as I read this post. You know my family will be praying for y'all. Hugs to you all. Yay for new toys and a smart mommy who remembered to pull out *that* card. :)
    Jael has really grown and blossomed since she came home!


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