Saturday, March 5, 2011

The Slow Down of Ethiopian Adoptions


Recently I have heard a lot and wondered to myself where the direction of Ethiopian Adoption was going. Each year the adoptions multiply and, as with anywhere, that (at times) can lead to corruption.

As a mom of three Ethiopian children this does concern me. I just read an article that is rather alarming, but then I have read those before. Articles written to draw readership, with (often) no concern for the actual 100% accuracy of items they list as facts.

The requirement of two court dates DID happen. There are things happening in Ethiopia. I wish, though, I had made a list during both of our adoptions of things stated as facts, that were rumors OR only being considered. There were MANY. They scared me and worried me.

Do I think something is happening in Ethiopia? Yes, but it may not play out exactly the way everyone thinks it will. We just can't know.

The current change (from what I understand) that is being proposed, is the decrease in the number of letters that MOWA writes recommending the adoption to the courts each day. This is necessary for adoptions to become legal in Ethiopia. From what I am reading (and hearing) is that the letters they want to write will go from 50 to 5 a day. That's a BIG decrease. This would increase the time (dramatically) a child would wait for their parents to be able to bring them home. This would, most likely, decrease Ethiopian adoptions all together...and there are just so many children...legitimate orphans.

I've heard this is being considered because they are overwhelmed. I've heard this is being considered because they are understaffed with so many children. I have also heard that it is being considered to insure that adoptions are legitimate and that they can take more time with each file. I have heard all these from different sources. All of these were stated with utmost conviction.

My opinion comes out somewhere right down the middle.

The thought of parents be enticed to give away their children or fraudulently requested to sign something they don't understand...this makes me sad AND MAD! The thought of programs to help keep families together and to help with health services to keep families healthy and intact...WONDERFUL! We know that doesn't always happen though. It just doesn't.

I was one of those that felt blessed to not have to take the two adoption related trips to Ethiopia (finance wise), but feel that the reason behind it is valid. This is to insure that children aren't abandoned in country after court. What was stated was that some parents, not prepared for the trauma their child faced or the lack of immediate attachment, left their children in limbo in Ethiopia. They were legally adopted and therefore not able to be adopted again, yet still with no family. The rational of two trips was right. Each child would be met by their parents before court and then legally adopted. I would be very interested to see if the abandonment decreased.

In this case, the extra time for scrutiny of each case seems a good thing. Yet, though I 100% agree that is good, I don't agree with the logic behind it. I LOVE the Ethiopian government's striving to increase the legitimacy of adoptions. I adore that they are trying to safeguard children and their bio families from corruption! I just don't necessarily agree with this particular way to do it.

My thought is that it might be better to increase staffing drastically. This would allow for the scrutiny, yet children that are legitimate orphans would not have to wait. Though I don't like the thought of an increase in costs, even a slight one would allow for more staff to be hired and trained. There might be a delay while training occurs, but this would be a temporary delay vs. a permanent one. The letters going out might have to decrease a little, but most likely not to the same extreme.

I remember seeing the twins for the first time. I remember realizing that Rachel could hardly roll over at 10 months. These children need homes and my heart aches to think of parents turning away from Ethiopia because months of wait becoming years. Who suffers? The sweet children. The amazing children that the government of Ethiopia is entrusting us with.

When I say that "God just leads us to our children and we just bring them home." I meant it. Months or years, our children would still have been there. My heart just feels near breaking though...at the thought of a child waiting and waiting (which occurs all over our world each day).

God leads and we follow...no government can stop that.

Yet, The thought of Jael not coming home from China for years makes me want to throw up.

I'm writing this because,not only do we all need to be standing in this gap petitioning...praying, but we need to be holding our children tightly and remembering what a gift they are. We also need to give the families waiting a hug, a listening ear, and we ALL need to remind each other that we follow God and not man. God is bigger than all this...WAYYYYYY bigger.

"He replied, 'You of little faith, why are you so afraid?' Then he got up and rebuked the winds and the waves, and it was completely calm." Matthew 8:26


Our Personal Prayer Requests

*For the waves rolling after the death of Thomas' step-dad.

*For the waves at my husband's place of business to smooth and calm.

*For everyone involved in our home study to feel confident (beyond reason) in our family being ready and perfect for Jael. That we are approved and it all goes quickly.

*That all paperwork may be quick and without flaw (in only a way the God can do) and both U.S. immigration approves us quickly and the Chinese government.

*For all "hiccups" to be banished and a hedge of protection be surrounding this journey.

*For our tax return and finances to fly that we may get started on our journey at a greater speed and that all finances come together with smoothness and speed.

*Please pray for our daughter across the world who faces each night alone, not knowing a family awaits her. Please pray that she feels God's presence, God's hedge of protection around her, that her heart is prepared and ready for family, and that Jesus fills her heart and helps her to be ready to attach to her family. Also for her biological family and their peace and knowledge of a God that loves them so very much.

*Please pray that God protects us from satan's attacks. When you follow God, satan always attacks.

*Most importantly, that God be brought glory and His will be done in all of this.

March's Extra Adoption Prayer Requests:
* Please pray for our home visit and interview with me (around the 25th most likely)
*Please pray for our medicals on the kids(general), Thomas, and I. The kids and Thomas will be quick, but my physical is just before the home study.
*Please pray for our Psychological evaluation: Our agency would like us to do this as an added insurance since the twins came home only 8 months ago AND we have seven children. Not all agencies do this, but ours is extremely diligent. Of course, we don't LOVE it, but we LOVE that our agency is dotting every "i" and crossing every "t".
*Please pray as we apply to Immigration. We need the fingerprint appointment to come quickly, as well as approval.
*Please pray that we receive taxes so that we can pay the program fee and get started on our dossier. We had to mail in our taxes, so it will most likely take longer. That is a concern, but God is bigger that this.

Prayers for Our Brothers and Sisters
If you have a prayer request, I will be trying to place them at the end of EVERY blog. Just comment or email me and I will list them. If you have a private one, just let me know and I will hold it up to God in prayer, but not place it on our blog.

*Please pray for Eden, a little blessing from Ethiopia, who has a life threatening disorder.

*Please pray for Judah, a little one from Ethiopia that is on a medical visa here in the United States. He has hydrocephalus and the doctors are evaluating him for treatment that is not available there. God is working miracles, can we pray for some more?

*Please pray for my friends Michelle and Amber who both have parents struggling with cancer.

*Please pray for Donna and her family as they are starting the adoption process at the same exact time we are and have their preliminary approval as well.

*Please pray for the funds to bring Isaiah and Ruth home in around three short weeks. May funds pour in....

*Rolando and Julia (Guatemala-It has been over five years.), AND Junior and Diamoh (Liberia) to be able to finally come home to their families and that these countries open to legitimate adoptions.

*Renae-For the continued transition of their sweet family. Their daughter joined their family this year and they are starting the process of another amazing journey to Ethiopia!

*Daniel (Liberia) and Jeremiah (Taiwan)- for their continued health issues. God's blessings and Hand on them and their families.

*My friend (unnamed, God knows)... foster son, his family, and all who will make or influence decisions on his behalf that God's will be done in every aspect of his life. Also, currently, for his serious health issues.

*For Eliz and their family as they bring home five beautiful blessings with Down Syndrome.

*Please pray for discernment and clarity for Gena and her family as they seek God's will about a future adoption. Also, please pray for their teen son to come to know Christ.



1 comment:

  1. Sooo agree!!!! Thank you for the support and encouragement of this post!

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