Saturday, November 28, 2009

The Blind Side of Adoption...Do You See?

This is not a review of the movie “The Blind Side”, but a review of sight…the ability to see.

Sight is this miraculous thing. It enables us to move forward without tripping and falling on your face (which I do often). It enables us to understand the world around us. It enables us to act.

Yes, I did see the movie “The Blind Side” tonight, but I brought something out of this movie that I didn’t expect. You see, we all have a blind side that we use so often. Many call it “turning a blind eye”, but basically it’s the ability to turn around and not see the world around us.

Occasionally we moms use the blind side when our house is “a little too quiet” and we really don’t want to know why, so we pretend. We pretend that we don’t know our three year old found a permanent marker and “decorated” the refrigerator with her “art work”. We pretend that our teen isn’t sneaking the snack you hid in the cabinet to eat after the kids went to bed. We pretend that the quiet is really a well-deserved peace settling on our households. This blind side often serves us well.

A young man name Michael Oher, seventeen years old, walking the streets on a freezing cold night, fell through the cracks of a foster care system that is overloaded. A family, living in their comfort, saw. Does that sound simple? It is.

They didn’t need night vision goggles or corrective lenses for their hearts to see someone that had no cushion, but abject poverty. They didn’t need a flood light to see a young man that had no home, comfort, or the loving arms to wrap him up and let him know it would be ok. They saw, because the Lord, our Heavenly Father saw Him. They saw because they threw away their blind side like litter along a highway.

When we arrived at “The Blind Side”, the line wrapped through the huge 18-cinema complex. A second theater had to be borrowed to house the overwhelming crowds. I personally was stunned. You could hear the silence in the theater as the movie progressed, hearts breaking for Michael and his life before love. The crowds filtered out of the movie exclaiming its greatness, with tears in their eyes. What a good movie. What an amazing family. What a great man Michael is.

I came out of the movie, tears in my eyes, praying that we all give up our blind side. There are other kids still on the street, having fallen through the cracks. There are children in abusive homes, children of crack addicts. There are thousands, if not millions, of children who don’t know where their next meal will come from. They own one set of clothes, ragged and worn, often smelling of urine. They wake up to their father standing over them knowing that what comes next is every parent’s nightmare. Children are waiting in orphanages, children’s homes, and foster care around the world. Many of these same children are wasting away from neglect and starvation.

I want to ask you a question. It’s about a child that doesn’t go to your children’s school. They don’t live down the block. In our safe little worlds of comfort, they aren’t physically present in our lives. Before I ask, this one verse comes to mind, “Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.” Hebrews 11:1

Do you believe and have faith that these children are out there and that they exist, though you haven’t seen them? If the answer is “yes” and God has allowed you to see with His sight, what will you do with that sight?

Will you choose to take a child off the streets, to ease their loneliness, or will you choose to leave them there and continue to pass by? I know this may sound harsh and I’m FAR from being able to pass judgment on anyone. I’ve made and continue to make mistake after mistake. This is not about guilting anyone into action, but about truly seeing, using our sight.

I just want to remind everyone out there that this is very clear and straight forward.

Will you see that child standing alone on the street corner? Will you see them smile in hope as you hold out your hand, letting them know they’re not alone? Will you hold a child having night terrors about their life before love?

Or will you take another avenue? Will you reside in comfort, closing your eyes to the fact that without you they will not have a family (just pretend they will, we are all good at pretending)? Will you look into the eyes of a cherished child of God and turn your back? Will you decide to choose to not see, close your heart to what you know, and turn your blind side?

God is not blind and neither can we be.

1 comment:

  1. Wow! First I found you from message on a yahoo board (don't remember which one).

    I'm so glad I've read your 'review' of the movie before going to see it. I've been looking forward to seeing it since I learned about this movie but now I can go into it with the challenge of seeing it a bit differently.

    Your challenge is a good one. One my husband and I feel called to as well, just feel limited by the financial at the moment. But we're working on that and praying along the way as we wait to be able to continue fulfilling God's plan on our lives.
    Glad I found your blog.


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